When the wedding is over

Since this is the first thing I’ve written since our wedding day your probably expecting a gooshy post about my husband or me raving about the wedding, but there is something else that I can’t stop thinking about.

Can I speak for for my age group for just a second? We live in a culture that seems to flaunt love, relationships, weddings, and create unrealistic longings. You are bombarded with images and messages telling you what your wedding should look like and even if your not dating someone, you probably already have the whole day planned out. Pinterest board with pin after pin. I know because I’ve experienced it all. But can I tell you something? It’s not about the dress, the flowers, the photos, or even the hottest husband. There is so, so much more. And to those who have rejected the whole marriage thing all together, let me tell you. There is so, so much more.

I don't claim to be an expert, but there is a truth that the Lord has revealed to me. Let me start by talking about our triune God. Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are loving and communing with the very love that they are (as quoted from my theology prof). As we are created in God’s Image, we incessantly crave intimacy and fellowship. We were designed to have intimacy with others. And our culture has picked up on this and distorted it’s holiness beyond measure. Our culture craves weddings as much as chocolate because it ultimately reflects our longing to know and be known. 

Love searching-purpose searching generation, hear me out: You have love waiting right at your door. You have intimacy, most true and pure, most holy and faithful, right where you are. Christ, the one who loved us and gave himself up for us, wants you. 

Our wedding day? But a reflection of what is to come. A mirroring image of Christ and the Church. And seriously, it only shadows in comparison to the love we have received from Christ. Do you get it? You, the Church, are His Bride. He is purifying us, sanctifying us, making us His righteousness. Only with Christ will you be fully known. It's only in Him that you find life. Even the most perfect pinterest wedding can't change that.

The day after the wedding I awoke to my best friend, another sinner saved by grace, who I can now share life and love with. After a year of wedding planning, it's not about his hair cut or my vintage heels. There is so, so much more than an extravagant day. We may know and be known by the very One who created us and we get to share that with others. What else is greater? My prayer for you is that the longing for fellowship would draw you in to intimacy with the very One in whose image you were created. Praise it. Believe it. Read it. Ephesians 2-3.

-AMO

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